If You are in your 30s or 40s, learn these 10 life lessons.

If you are in your 30s or 40s, learn these 10 life lessons.

1. Not everyone wants to see you succeed. Some will even go out of their way to see you fail. Success can trigger resentment. Stay focused. Your energy is too valuable to waste on envy.

2. Learn to be self-sufficient and realize you are a mortal who will suffer horribly later. You don't become independent and resourceful. 

3. Stop worrying about what other people think.

Most opinions are distractions. Live by your own values, not by their judgments.

4. Keep to yourself. Stay away from idiots. Stupidity is contagious. Energy is contagious.

Protect your space from ignorance, noise, and recklessness.

5. Your friends want you to do good, but not better than them. Rest don't care.

Support has limits. Be kind, but don't mistake silent competition for loyalty.

6. Many people don't like you, especially if they see you as a competition. Threats are rarely welcomed. Keep rising. Just don't expect applause.

7. Don't say yes to everyone to make them comfortable. Check with yourself too before you commit. 

8. Learn how to say no and mean it. Letting go is power. Some things aren't worth your peace. Drop them without guilt.

9. Time truly flies. Be grateful always because it can always be worse. Live like there's no tomorrow and do what you love.

10. Know your worth. Never put yourself in the bargain bin and put yourself where others will value you.

Doa Nabi Sulaiman

7x ulangan 

It Ain't About How Hard You Hit

It Ain't About How Hard You Hit | Rocky Balboa 

Now I'm asking you as a favor not to go through with this, okay? This is only gonna end up bad for you and it's gonna end up bad for me. You think I'm hurting you? Yeah, in a way you are. That's the last thing I ever wanted to do.

I know that's not what you want to do but that's just the way that it is. Don't you care what people think? Doesn't it bother you that that people are making you out to be a joke and that I'm gonna be included in that? Do you think that's right? Do you? You ain't gonna believe this. But you used to fit right here. I'd hold you up to say to your mother, this kid's gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid's gonna be somebody better than anybody ever knew. And you grew up good and wonderful.

It was great just watching, every day was like a privilege. Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed.

You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame.

Like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows.

It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit.

It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done.

You Need to be more careful about what you Ask Allah For

You need to be more careful about what you ask Allah for, and even more careful about what you say, because in the Qur'an, your words, they're not just sounds, they're a form of dua. This is why Allah Himself says that every word that you say is recorded by the angels, and it'll become manifest on the outside. Why? Because it has an effect on your nafs.

And Allah Himself says that He will not change the condition of a people, till they change their nafsu. 

And you look at the story of Prophet Yusuf عليه السلام when he said to his father, I see stars, moon, and the sun, they're all prostrating to me. And that's exactly what happened at the end of the whole story.

His own father says that I fear that the wolf is gonna be eating him, and his sons come back to him saying what? The same exact words that he said. And when Yusuf عليه السلام said that  "jail is more beloved to me than whatever I'm at right now," what happened to him? He ended up in jail. And these are not punishments, this is just to show you that your words have power.

So every single time you say things like, I'm done, I'm unlucky, I'm so stupid, I'm this, I'm that,  you're putting a spell on yourself, you're doing dua on yourself against yourself. And this is why in the Qur'an when Allah says that when 

He presented the responsibility to the mountains, to the creation, none of them were able to take it except the human. And that same page Allah says,  

"قولوا قولا صديدا (1:09) Speak words that are just, truthful, and correct, and honest."

So clean your tongue, habibi, start speaking goodness from now on, and just watch how much more beautiful Allah's gonna make your life become.

The Universe Doesn't Respond to Good or Bad - Part 2

“Good” and “bad” are mental constructs the mind uses to feel in control, not reflections of how reality actually operates. How to fix it: regulate your nervous system, stop over-explaining, act before doubt spirals, and align de

The universe doesn't reward good or bad. It responds to energy, speed and internal resistance.

Just like fire burns the same whether you're a saint or a sinner, outcome follows how it's used, not who you are.

And bad people feel regulated inside risk, pressure and conflict. And their nervous system feels safe taking action quickly. Bad people's subconscious mind expects things to work out so there's less guilt, self-doubt and anxiety to slow things down.

And remember, the universe doesn't reward being good. It responds when belief, emotion and action align.

Manifest Money by aligning belief, emotion, and action

Manifest money by aligning belief, emotion, and action. 

First, regulate your body so money feels safe. 

Second, act daily toward income, be creative then sell. 

Third, rehearse receiving: visualize payment, feel gratitude now. 

The universe isn't responding to how badly you want money. It's responding to how safe your body feels holding it. So your nervous system, when it feels pressure around money, shifts into urgency, rushed decisions, and disrupted timing.

And your subconscious mind sets the expectation. If it believes money will bring stress, loss, and responsibility, it's going to slow things down that you're trying to materialize. 

And the universe isn't responding to effort.

It's responding when belief, emotion, and action align.

Tanpa Sedar, Kita Tak Adil Dengan Anak.

Tanpa sedar, kita tak adil dengan anak.

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Kita paksa anak habiskan makanan. Tapi kita sendiri berhenti makan bila tak kena dengan selera.

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Kita jerit dan paksa anak patuh arahan. Tapi kita sendiri takkan patuh arahan orang yang cakap kasar dan tinggi suara pada kita.

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Kita marah dan serabut bila anak tak berhenti menangis. Tapi bila kita sendiri menangis, kita harapkan pelukan dan kata-kata yang menenangkan.

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Kita paksa anak berhenti menangis. Tapi kalau ada orang dewasa menangis, kita tahu mereka sedang dalam kesusahan dan perlukan sokongan.

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Kita paksa anak peluk, cium, salam semua orang yang dia jumpa. Tapi kita sendiri tak selesa bermesra dengan orang yang kita tak kenal.

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Kita pukul dan hukum sekeras-kerasnya bila anak buat silap. Tapi bila anak orang lain buat silap, kita boleh cakap “Takpe, biasalah tu budak-budak. Sabarlah.”

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Kita nak anak jaga adab, jaga perangai, jaga tingkahlaku setiap masa tanpa gagal. Tapi kita sendiri buat perangai, buat silap, dan tak beradab sepanjang masa.

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Kita nak anak hormat dan sentiasa dengar cakap. Tapi kita sendiri lupa untuk hormat anak sebagai sebaik-baik ciptaan tuhan dan buat mereka rasa didengari.

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Tanpa sedar, 

kita tak bertindak adil pada anak.

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Kita tak beri emotional rights yang sama kepada mereka,

sepertimana yang kita sendiri perlukan.

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Sometimes,

We talk too much, but never listen.

We expect too much, but never become.

We demand too much, but never give the same thing.

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Kita tetapkan syarat dan peraturan yang langsung tak realistik

Lepas tu kita hairan kenapalahhh anak aku ni selalu stress, memberontak, suka "buat masalah".

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Kita tak sedar, 

kita tak pernah layan mereka sebagai manusia selayaknya.

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Kredit: Adlil Rajiah

Permulaan Kita Tak Sama

PERMULAAN KITA TAK SAMA.

Waktu di universiti dulu, saya selalu jumpa rakan sebaya yg dari keluarga berada. Terdetik juga rasa cemburu dan jealous. Tipu la kalau cakap tak iri hati sebab :

1. Saya struggle hari hari lepas kuliah kena kerja, sebab nak bayar duit moto. Mereka, datang kuliah berkereta yang diberi okeh keluarga. 

2. Mereka boleh fokus untuk study sebab tak perlu bekerja. Saya balik kerja jam 12-1am, kalau tak penat boleh la study. 

3. Pagi pukul 8am dah kena masuk kelas. Biasanya kuliah pagi mmg hanya badan saya sahaja dalam kelas, tapi roh saya masih tidur 🤣

4. Bila mula kerja, saya masih naik motor dan majority rakan sekerja yang gaji sama sudah ada kereta. Dan bukan kereta proton atau Myvi, tapi minima Honda n Toyota.

5. Bila saya mula melabur, jumpa ramai kawan baru yang ibu bapa mereka dah melabur berpuluh tahun. Ibu bapa mereka jadi mentor mereka, ada advantage besar berbanding dgn saya yang dari keluarga B40.

6. Bila nak kahwin, saya lihat ada kawan yang majlis perkahwinan mereka buat di hotel mahal yang disponsor oleh ibu bapa mereka. Ramai org muda tak bernasib baik begitu hingga kena buat personal loan semata mata utk berkahwin.

7. Bila nak mula berniaga, kena guna modal hasil dari pelaburan. Tiada modal FAMA, tiada role model dalam keluarga yang pernah berjaya berniaga. Mula dari kosong.

Sebab tu hari ini, bila saya lihat orang yang beli kereta atau rumah umur 21, saya tak kagum. Sebab besar kemungkinan mereka datang dari keluarga yang mampu. Wang bukan masalah besar.

Dan bila saya lihat umur dah 36 baru nak beli rumah, saya juga tidak akan kecam. Kerana mungkin mereka mcm klien saya yang terpaksa tanggung hutang keluarga dahulu, atau besarkan /lepaskan adik adik kecil yg sedang belajar, atau bantu pembiayaan ahli keluarga yang sakit. Nasib kita semua tak sama, dan permulaan kita juga tak sama, kan? ❤️